What is Tri-Ess ?
Tri-Ess is an educational, social and support group for
heterosexual crossdressers, their partners, the spouses of married
crossdressers and their families. We believe that we are
blessed with an additional facet to our personalities. If we accept our
crossgendered side, and explore it, we will find a broadening of the
entire personality, which can be very fulfilling. We dress in emulation,
rather than in mockery, of femininity. The Tri-Ess philosophy can
be expressed in the acronym FIBER:
F - Full personality expression in both its masculine and its
feminine aspects. We do not wish to destroy our masculinity, but to
soften its harsher aspects, and be all we can be.
I - Integration of masculinity and femininity to create a
happier whole person.
B - Balance between masculinity and femininity.
E - Education or crossdressers and their families toward
self-acceptance; education of society toward accepting crossdressing
R - Relationship-building in the context of crossdressing.
Based on this concept, Tri-Ess engages in the following:
1. Publication of the quarterly magazine, The
Femme Mirror. The Femme Mirror covers crossdressing
from every conceivable angle. Stories of coming out, events in the
gender community, articles by wives, "how to" articles, news
from our chapters, treatises on crossgendered law, articles on
religion, and scholarly articles about the "why's" of
crossdressing - all are published in the Mirror, along with
poetry and even cartoons!
2. Publication of the Sweetheart Connection,
a quarterly newsletter by wives and for wives.
3. Publication of the secure, on-line Membership Directory,
with profiles and pictures (optional). Many crossdressers feel alone,
and many live far from any chapter. To meet a sister in correspondence
can be a very rewarding experience.
4. Publication of brochures and pamphlets on
5. Tri-Ess has more than 20 chapters nationwide.
Our chapters are social gatherings where members can enjoy programs
and the company of others like themselves. Some chapters meet in hotel
rooms, others in homes. Some meetings are held at sympathetic
businesses or restaurants. The main chapter meetings are crossdressing
occasions. some chapters have an additional meeting where the members
enjoy activities "en-homme". These non-crossdressing
meetings are an excellent way to bring out timid new members and
6. In November Tri-Ess stages the Holiday
En Femme. Participants enjoy outings, attend educational
seminars, and generally have fun. Holidays are held in
cities where we have chapters.
7. Tri-Ess presents the annual Spouses'
and Partners' International Conference (SPICE),
a non-crossdressed event - the only event in the gender community
specifically for wives.
8. Tri-Ess provides a voice of advocacy for
crossdressers and their families. We have had an outreach booth
at the National Association of Social Workers convention in
Nashville, and a booth at the first International
Conference on Gender Research, an event Tri-Ess also
co-sponsored. Our leaders have appeared on radio and television,
teaching the public about crossdressing. Our chapters participate in
outreach by talking before Crisis Hotlines and police departments, and
9. Tri-Ess is a member of the World
Congress of Transgender Organizations, and of the International
Foundation for Gender Education (IFGE), the umbrella
organization for all types of transgendered people. About 35% of IFGE Board of Directors are Tri-Ess members. Tri-Ess works
hard for a community of transgendered people.
10. We are expanding internationally, with a Sisters
Across the Sea Program, building communication between Tri-Ess chapters and similar organizations abroad, and encouraging
I hope this gives you a thumbnail sketch of Tri-Ess. I will be most
happy to answer any questions you have about our organization. If you wish to
provide a mailing address, I'll be most happy to send some brochures your way. I
hope to hear from you soon. May you enjoy your web-crawling and stay healthy,
happy, and pretty.
Jane Ellen Fairfax
Chair Tri-Ess Board of Directors